Tuesday, 22 March 2011
People Who... Talk About Other People
"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss other people." -Eleanor Roosevelt
There is almost nothing I find so tiresome as listening to someone talk about another person. It isn't engaging. It isn't enlightening or attractive. It isn't interesting.
It shows no imagination. No wit. As the above quote says, all it takes to discuss other people is a very small mind.
I don't trust people who continually talk about other people. Even if it isn't outright slander or gossip, I still find it terribly indiscreet to divulge the small details of another persons life to others as though one had the right. Why bother?
It makes me tired. Bored. Silent.
Talk to me about yourself. Tell me what you hope for. Your dreams, your disappointments. Tell me about your childhood, your travels. What you love and hate. What fascinates you. Tell me silly stories, things you've done that make you laugh, times you shocked yourself. Tell me what sort of food you like. Where you go shopping.
Talk to me about religion. Faith. Lack of faith. Talk to me about art and beauty. Chaos and despair. Talk to me about mysteries, the world, science.
Share your own opinions with me. I might not agree with you but I am not threatened by that.
Talk to me honestly, openly. Communicate with me.
So tell me about yourself. The only person you have a right to talk about.