There are times throughout life when everyone encounters people who are "toxic". Those who drain those around them emotionally. Those who critisize everything and everybody. They bring discontent and discord with them everywhere they go. They spread rumors. They are "the wounded party" all the time.
They are insincere and although they probably don't equate their behavior with dishonesty, it is exactly that. A person who is insincere can not be trusted with anything.
I think that in these situations, it is healthy to make a clean break. To remove, (not physically of course;), this toxic influence, this untrustworthy and hurtful person from one's life.
I refuse to cater to these people. I refuse to be hurt by them. I refuse them access to my life.
I am an independant person and will not allow my feelings, my self worth, or in fact, anything at all about my life, to be dictated by others. It's easier said than done though and I understand that. It's a daily stuggle.
I try to have a generous spirit and an open personality, but self respect demands that I have my limits as well. I will not be made to feel less than I am. As soon as I see insincerity showing it's ugly face, I will create a tangible distance, I will be polite and distant and you will no longer know me.
6 comments:
Sounds like something is going on...I hope things work out and the toxins won't bother you anymore (((HUGS)))
Hey thanks Sæunn! There's nothing too serious going on...it's just theraputic to write these things down sometimes, get it out of the system and liberating to realzie that when you do encounter these sorts of people, you owe them nothing at all! Hope all is good with you my friend!
Well said, or rather well written...enjoy the blog as always...still waiting for that news....
Us to Anonymous....us too! I just thought that entries about waiting may be getting old at this point and thought I'd take a brave plunge into new terretories.:) Thanks for reading!
That anonomous comment was not me, Colleen........ but I don't know why I am coming up as another anonomous when I comment! What am I doing wrong! As to your blog entry, I one hundred percent agree, though we should always pray for those we find toxic! Lift them up to God and ask Him to come into their lives! Prayers are never wasted! Kate Olson Wilson
Mom, if you want to leave a comment under your name and not under anonymous, after you comment, click on the one that says "Name/URL" and type your name instead of anonymous and then you should be able to...next time let me know if it works.
Thanks for your comment and ideas on how to deal with these people. Such a shame they exist in the first place!!;)
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